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Getting Your Ex Back:  The 10 Worst Mistakes You Can Make

In winning back someone you love, sometimes the things you do aren't half as important as the things you don't. In the days and weeks immediately following your breakup, most people make hurried moves and quick decisions in an effort to patch things up. But sadly, almost all of these moves are wrong.

Right after a relationship ends, crucial mistakes can be made that might cost you any chance of getting back together with your ex. And once you make these errors, they usually cannot be undone. They can very quickly drive your partner away, which is the exact opposite of what you want. It's therefore important to recognize these bad behaviors right away, and prevent them from happening in the first place.

1) Crying or Begging For Your Relationship

One of the worst things you can do, crying or pleading with your ex is never the answer. Whether you were dumped or you broke up through a horrendous fight, emotions always run high on each side. You both need time to calm down, reevaluate the situation, and then approach it rationally on another day. Crying leads to hysterics, where nothing ever gets accomplished.

Maybe you've even seen a guy take his ex-girlfriend back simply because she was crying. Is that what you want? Any type of reunion based on guilt and pity is destined for failure. You'll only break up again during the next fight, or the next one. If there are problems that led to the end of your relationship they need to be identified and addressed - not masked by a waterfall of tears.

Begging for your relationship is even worse. You're heaping unwanted guilt on your boyfriend's shoulders that he's going to resent you for later on. You're also showing big signs of personal weakness. Believe it or not, men are attracted more to strength than vulnerability. Some vulnerability in a woman is endearing, but not to the point of broken down begging. Avoid it no matter what you do; it's likely to change the whole way your boyfriend looks at you now, and in the future.

2) Pushing For Answers As To What Happened

Another common mistake, pressing your ex to explain the break up over and over again is a big problem. It's easy for your mind not to accept his reasoning, and to repeatedly badger him for the 'real' reason the two of you are no longer a couple. Even after he's explained it for the sixth consecutive time, many women keep pressing for the things they want to hear... things they believe they can fix in order to reverse their breakup.

No matter what reason your boyfriend gives you when breaking up, accept it. Even if you think it's bullshit, there will be plenty of time later on to discuss it during the reconciliation process. That process can't begin until you've accepted the breakup (see Step 1) - so take what he says and move on without fighting him on it.

3) Giving Out Ultimatums or Deadlines

These never work. Your deadline will come and go, and you'll never follow through on your threats. This undermines your credibility, and your ex will take many of the things you say in the future as empty or hollow.

In addition to this, you're in no position to be giving deadlines anyway. Your boyfriend broke up with you, putting you in the very undesirable role of the dumpee. Making threats from such a poor position only makes you look silly. And even if you gained the advantage of higher ground, this type of negative communication can only further damage your relationship. You want to make your ex want you back... strong-arming him to get there defeats the whole purpose.

4) Engaging in Text Message Terrorism

The bane of any breakup, text-messaging your ex can really damage any chances you might have of putting your relationship back together again. Why? Because these quick little back and forth conversations usually degenerate into tit-for-tat arguments. As each side tries to make their own points and trump the other's, both of you end up either annoyed or confused. Text-messaging an ex-boyfriend never accomplishes anything.

The same goes for email. Although these new technologies allow for increased communication, sometimes too much of a good thing is no good. A really big part of getting your ex back involves making him miss you. But trust me, your boyfriend won't have time to miss you if you're shooting him an electronic message every ten minutes.

Texting and emailing your ex will only lead to more fighting. This type of communication comes without the added benefits of emotion or voice inflection, and often messages are misinterpreted by one person or the other. Even the simplest conversation can turn into a blowout if one partner doesn't realize how the other person is trying saying something.

Do yourself a favor and turn off your cell phone after a breakup. As hard as it may seem to do this, it's for the best if you plan on trying to get back an ex-boyfriend.

5) Exhibiting Desperate Behavior

You can feel sad, sullen, depressed, or even physically ill after your relationship ends. These feelings are unfortunately common after breaking up with someone you still love. But the one feeling you want to avoid at all costs, because it can really worsen your situation with an ex-boyfriend, is desperation.

Men can smell desperation in a woman from miles away. It never gets you anywhere, and it actually makes you less attractive as a potential girlfriend or mate. It's also very easy to take advantage of someone who is feeling desperate, and you certainly don't want to be taken advantage of.

Staying strong after a break up is vital to making him want you back. Trade in your despair for activity: get out and do something that will get your mind off your ex-boyfriend. Hit the gym, better yourself, take up a hobby or go see some friends. Whatever you do, don't sit around by the phone waiting for his call. Even were it to come, you're going to lose face once he realizes you were doing nothing at all but waiting to hear from him.

6) Asking Someone To Speak On Your Behalf

Bringing in a third party to speak to your ex is always wrong. These types of three-way communication games didn't work in high school, and they certainly won't work now. Asking one of your own friends to speak to your ex-boyfriend for you will only serve to piss him off: he's going to resent you bringing these outsiders into the situation. It also hurts your chances of a reunion, because even if he wants to get back with you he now has to deal with the knowledge that your friends probably know everything about your break up.

Trying to speak to him through his own friends is even worse. They're always going to look out for your ex-boyfriend's best interests, and he's going to feel embarrassed that you're trying to communicate through them. This move also smacks of desperation. Any communication after the break up should be directly between the two of you... and if you're smart, that communication won't come until after things have been given a chance to settle down.

7) Trying to Flirt With His Friends

You'd be amazed at how many women actually do this. Flirting with your ex-boyfriend's buddies is one of the worst ways to win him back. He's going to hate you for it, he'll never forget you did it, and it will always be awkward to be around that friend if and when you ever get back together.

Even if you convince yourself that you've got innocent intentions, breeding jealousy between you and your ex is not the right way to repair a relationship. Doing this with another guy would be bad enough, but involving his friends is ten times worse. You're not only driving a wedge between you and your ex, you're also alienating yourself from his circle of friends. No true friend of his would ever flirt back with you, and the ones that do aren't his friends to begin with. You're trading a few moments of jealousy for a lifetime of disrespect. Don't do it.

8) Stalking, Spying, Or 'Accidentally' Running Into Him

One of the first steps to get back an ex-boyfriend involves giving him the space that he needs. Your ex might be tired, bored, sick of fighting... or maybe he just needs to think about things for a while. Whatever his reasons for breaking up with you, each of you needs to take a giant step back.

You cannot do this if you're stalking him. Spying on your ex, driving past his house, or watching over his every activity will always be detrimental to you getting back together. Even if you try to convince yourself that you "just want to see how he's doing", it's never as innocent as that. Forget about him finding out (which would be bad enough) - you need to mentally and emotionally let go of your boyfriend in order to reach the state of mind necessary to start piecing your relationship back together.

If your ex-boyfriend finds out you've been staking out his house, job, or daily activities, he's going to label you as psychotic. This isn't an easy stigma to overcome. You're not going to convince him that you just 'happened to be in the neighborhood' either, so steer clear of anywhere you might see him - especially in the beginning.

9) Sleeping With Him To Get Him Back

After a breakup, you may be willing to do just about anything to get your man back. And if one of those things includes sleeping with him, things between you could get sticky and awkward when you'd rather they got closer and more comfortable. Falling into bed with your ex may make you both feel good... temporarily. But when morning comes, there's likely to be some very unwanted repercussions.

Sex never works as a crowbar to get back into a broken relationship. In most cases, you'll only end up feeling more used and confused than you did before. This is because a man often views sex a lot differently than a woman. Men are able to separate the physical aspects of intercourse more easily from the emotional ones, whereas women tend to view sex as a more intimate act between lovers.

If you sleep with your ex-boyfriend, be prepared for what might happen. You cannot take intercourse as simple proof that your ex still cares for your relationship. The night you spent together could very well have been nothing but a momentary physical act between two people sharing a past history. If that's the extent of his thoughts on what just happened, this could really hurt you badly.

Don't bank on a great night of sex to be the super-glue that somehow magically repairs your romance. Sex should never be used as a weapon during the relationship, so it shouldn't be used as a tool to make your ex want you back. On the flip side of the coin, don't let your man dangle sex over your head as a carrot either. If you've got an ex-boyfriend proposing you sleep with him as a condition of making up, you should seriously examine whether or not you want this guy back in the first place.

10) Taking Revenge Upon Him

The absolute worst possible thing you could do, seeking vengeance on your ex because he broke up with you is the surest way to lose him forever. It doesn't matter how bad the breakup was, or how badly he may have treated you... if you ever want a long-term relationship with this man again, you're going to have to swallow any plans for revenge.

It's natural to feel hurt by someone, and it's also natural to want that person to experience the same type of pain you're currently going through. Retribution has been a part of human nature since the dawn of time. But instead of picking up that sword of vengeance, try to remember that this is someone you still care for. This is someone you'd like to one day build a life with again. Now imagine his reaction when he finds out you're planning to hurt him purely out of spite.

Revenge will always be counterproductive to your agenda of winning him back. Whether you're keying his car or sleeping with someone else to get back at him for dumping you, these are things you can never take back. Later on, when you're trying to patch things up, these will be the things you'll be apologizing for (and wishing you never did). He'll have to get over these actions in order to want a relationship with you again, and odds are he never will. In the back of his mind, these things will always nag at him. And although he might say he forgives you, he probably doesn't.

Having a girlfriend with a history of taking revenge is also an extremely undesirable trait in a long-term partner. You'll get much more respect from your ex by handling your break up maturely, without doing anything to damage a future reunion with him. Acting out in anger is always the worse possible move.

What To Do If You've Broken Up

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Target Age: 18-45 years old
Relationship Status: Broken Up or On a Break

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